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just allow for this scenario to happen .............. she'll forget all about this issue.
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I've never understood why parents have such an issue with kids playing video games but for some reason watching TV is just fine for most of them.
Then again, I'm 23 and got a super nintendo from my grandpa at 5 years old. My parents had no real rules about how much I could play it. I remember them asking me if I had homework and if I did they would insist I did it first, but that's all.
I pretty much watched TV as much as I wanted, played as many video games as I wanted (I would maybe get one or two for xmas, or one for b-day before I had money of my own), and didn't have any scheduled chores around the house (if my parents asked me to do something, I would, but it wasn't structured).
As I recall, my parents didn't try to structure every damn minute of my childhood and I thank them for it. But I guess I can't really comment on parenting, because I don't have kids and want nothing to do with them for another 15ish years.
This post has been edited 2 times, most recently by groverj3 15 months ago
"Only two things are infinite, the universe and human stupidity. I'm not too sure about the former." - Albert Einstein
Try communicating more with your wife.
I would be willing to bet that 5 1/2 years ago + 9 months, the OP finished something way sooner than 35 minutes...
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Do what my mom did with my brother....packed his stuff up and told him to go live under someone else's roof and see how better it was. That lasted for about 3 hours before he came back and confronted to her rules.
As for video games, I think I had the strictest rules for gaming, even my friends said So. I had to finish my homework and chores and maintain a 3.0 GPA in order to play what amounted to a hour a day since I also had a job. Lets just say I never had to give up gaming because I always met the criteria my mom threw out at me.
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LOL.....if only it were that easy.
Is the issue that she can't afford to give her son a Wii so now she's ticked at you for buying one for him at your house? I can't imagine why she'd be upset about the gaming system with the rules you set in place. It sounds like a nice way for the two of you to bond over something fun. Video games (in moderation) can be really fun and create great eye-hand coordination. I see no harm here.
I'm betting she has real issues with you and I suspect she'd find fault with anything you bought. You should get him an iPad for his birthday and watch her explode with rage.
She sounds lovely...sorry you let her slip away
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Tell her she's about to have the worst black eye ever if she doesn't stfu.
If you are only allowing 35 minute sessions that wiiU was not an option. That would be torture for a child while waiting through those ridiculous load times!
Tell the kid there's no Santa Claus and box up the Wii.
Well, how much time a day does she feel would be sufficient for your kid to play games? What game does she think you should have bought instead of Donkey Kong? It sounds like you're confused about why she thinks you're the worst parent ever, and not how much time per day kids should play video games.
But if you mean that every time you try to talk to her about it she flies off the handle and starts yelling and/or crying then I feel your pain.
Bought a Wii for my kids for Christmas - we have 2 boys, 4 and 6. The 6 yr old is fine. He likes it, but self-regulates well. Spends less than an hour a day on it. The 4 yr old is effing OBSESSED with it. Has lost interest in other activities in favor of games. I had no idea this would happen. So now, the wife and I are left with the option of slowly decreasing his screen time a few minutes a day, because I believe if we go cold-turkey, it would be a major battle. I'm a big gamer myself, but I almost never let it get in the way of other things. But for young kids, you have to be careful.
Are you living with the mom? Is she your spouse? I think we've been assuming that it is either an ex or you share custody, but I haven't seen anywhere that you've mentioned either way.
Oh, and sometimes women complain just to have something to complain about, so keep that in mind. Just empathize with her and pretend to care about her opinion.
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This is good to know. I have a 2 year old daughter and a boy on the way. I figured I would let them play games as much or as little as they wanted and they would get bored with it after a few weeks and move on to other stuff like I did during the Atari 2600, then Nintendo era. Bbl, time to get my mage up to level 43.
I'm with you. Same age and never really had any rules. It would come and go in phases, I'd get the new college football and be out of commission for a few weeks, but then I wouldn't pick up the sticks for another month.
I think rather than putting the games on a pedestal and only allowing 35 minutes (f***ing random number btw) you should instill in him how important other things are. At a very young age my parents convinced me how important school was, so that took precedent. I was always really active in several sports and spent almost all of the summers outside. I was girl obsessed by 10 and wanted to be social. Knowing this, did it really matter to my parents if I spent two weeks straight playing GTA from the time I got home until I went to bed? No, I handled my business in school and they knew it wouldn't last forever.
I'm not a parent so I don't know how you go about doing that. I do know that the kids whose parents limit every effing thing at home were the kids who would come to my house and didnt want to shoot hoops or anything, just game for hours and hours and drink 7 cokes while they had the chance.
This post was edited by Chilly 15 months ago
The worst thing you can do is give a little guy that age videos games to keep him busy. My cousin does that with her 4 year old (Ipad and Wii) and I can tell he's not benefiting from it.
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