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Destination weddings

  • I got married in Hawaii and had a wonderful time. We sent out an informational packet to people about 9 months in advance to let them know of our plans and give them the opportunity to save up if they wanted to join us. My wife owned a travel agency at the time, so she did all the planning and I didn't have to be involved in every single, little, minute detail. It also cut my asshole MiL out of the planning stage, which saved us both a boatload of hassle. As far as being offended at people that didn't come with us, it was a lot of money and vacation time. I never would have held it against anyone that didn't make the trip.

    Cement23588

  • ArtieLuvPancake said...

    I find them selfish and presumptuous.

    My cousin is getting hitched in the DR in the middle of hurricane season this summer. Our grandparents won't be there, I won't be there, my siblings won't be there, and if they want to feel offended at any of our absence they shouldn't have required us to buy a $600 plane ticket as part of the deal.

    So in my opinion either pay for the flight and room for every guest you invite, or have a local wedding where everyone can come and enjoy themselves like every other sane person on Earth.

    See I'm glad you said that because I know some people will probably feel that way, but I think that's only justified if the couple says or does anything to make you feel bad for not coming. Of course you're asking a lot of your guests, and that's why you have to be OK with people not coming - whether they can't afford it, or simply don't want to spend the time/money to come. Although the DR during hurricane season doesn't sound as nice as say, Aruba in February shrug

    Frankly I love the idea of a casual backyard party after getting married at the courthouse, but I don't want to impose on anyone to host and I doubt that our future home (we're looking to stay in downtown RO) will be able to handle that many people. Especially after our parents started talking about who THEY wanted to invite. Seems easier to flee the country, whether we have guests with us or not lol

    MSURed

  • MSURed said...

    See I'm glad you said that because I know some people will probably feel that way, but I think that's only justified if the couple says or does anything to make you feel bad for not coming. Of course you're asking a lot of your guests, and that's why you have to be OK with people not coming - whether they can't afford it, or simply don't want to spend the time/money to come. Although the DR during hurricane season doesn't sound as nice as say, Aruba in February shrug

    Frankly I love the idea of a casual backyard party after getting married at the courthouse, but I don't want to impose on anyone to host and I doubt that our future home (we're looking to stay in downtown RO) will be able to handle that many people. Especially after our parents started talking about who THEY wanted to invite. Seems easier to flee the country, whether we have guests with us or not lol

    I hear ya.

    A destination wedding seems to work nice for you, as you want it small and low key and relaxing, etc. I'm just projecting my own situation into this thread, where my dumbass cousin and her family expects our 87 year old grandmother to get on an airplane for a 7 hr flight to the DR and is offended that she doesn't want to go.

    I'll amend my thoughts to this: If you want a big wedding and you want everyone you invite to come, don't have it in the Caribbean. And don't be offended if anyone does not show up.

    Anyway, Congrats Red! Hope it goes smoothly!

    ArtieLuvPancake

  • Red, the important question is, when is the bachelor/bachelorette party? Because I'm sure we can just lump it into one since you'll both enjoy the lady strippers and debauchery.

    Colonel Forbin

  • Colonel Forbin said...

    Red, the important question is, when is the bachelor/bachelorette party? Because I'm sure we can just lump it into one since you'll both enjoy the lady strippers and debauchery.

    I'm in

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  • MSURed said...

    Frankly I love the idea of a casual backyard party after getting married at the courthouse, but I don't want to impose on anyone to host and I doubt that our future home (we're looking to stay in downtown RO) will be able to handle that many people.

    I don't really have an opinion on the destination wedding, but if you're interested in the casual backyard kind of thing, perhaps you could look at one of the metroparks or a place like Addison Oaks?

    Go Green Girl

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