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Ex takes "new" BF home for Thanksgiving

  • Tough day today.Alone in Texas without family and just found out my ex girlfriend just took her supposed "new" boyfriend home to her parents for Thanksgiving.

    We went out for 3 years and I was very close to her young son,too.

    She started having seizures in January(30yrs.old) and broke up with me the morning after a night of seizures in February.

    they ran tests and couldn't figure out why the seizures occurred.

    She said it wasn't fair to have me take care of her like an invvalid.I suspected her health issues were more serious than she let on.

    I was devastated having her and her son ripped out of my life.

    She moved to a new house but we texted back and forth for a few months.I would check on her periodicaly by text to make sure she was alright.

    In the summer I texted.No answer.Called no answer.Left message,"Hey,just let me know u r ok".Nothing.

    I was worried sick that she was alone laying on the floor somewhere with a seizure and since she had moved I couldn't physically check on her.

    When I finally reached her by phone the following Monday she said she had gone to South Padre for the weekend and left her phone.She was ok.

    I was so pissed that she didnt let me know she was ok.I didn't contact her at all for 3 months.

    last month,broke down and sent her a "how r u" text.We started talking.

    She said she had a void in her life and still missed me but hadn't contacted me because she didnt want to hurt me and hoped I had moved on.Still had health issues but was taking medication for the seizures.

    Said she saw a car with a Spartans sticker and had to pull over she was crying so bad.(This is in San Antonio).

    Texted me pics of her son when I asked about him.

    Said she hated her life with the stress from her health and it wasn't fair to drop that in someone she loves lap.

    Anyway we text for a few days and one night out of the blue she calls me and I miss the call.

    Text her the next day and she says she is ok but wee shouldnt contact each other anymore.

    I'm like WTF??She says it reminded her of why we weren't together. she used to get pissed if I missed a call.

    Says she needs someone there all the time,not some of the time and will be patient waiting to find that person.

    I get pissed because I don't think its fair to pull back because of one missed call when I couldnt reach her for days earlier in the summer and was worried to death.

    She tells me to let her go.

    I wait about a week and send texts periodically over the next couple of weeks with no answer.

    Then I see the other day that she goes out with this guy that is supposed to just be a "friend".

    Next day she is at Starbucks with "her love".I text .No response.

    How do you go from being single and having a void in her life,missing me to having Starbucks with "her love" a month later???

    I text her asking if she lied to me about everything and congrats for the miraculous health recovery.
    I ask for some kind of response so I can get closure.No answer.

    Yesterday,send her a glad your happy goodbye text.no answer.

    Today see she is on her way to Laredo with her "new" boyfriend.

    sorry for the long rant but I have no ffamily here and you guys are it.i feel sick to my stomach and totally used.

    i am much more upset that she didnt care enough about me to just tell me she was seeing someone else.prolly been seeing this guy the whole time.

    She should have at least given me some kind of response so I could have closure.

    Who takes a guy home for Thanksgiving you have been going out with for a month?Even though I am hurt I know the answer.

    You don't.

    Did this chick ever give a shit about me??I know I am not perfect but damn.

    Probably the longest post I have ever made but man it hurts.

    CLIFF NOTES:

    GF of 3 years breaks up because of health.
    Months later we talk again,she is single,misses me and has a void in her life without me.
    she gets pissed because I miss a phone call and tells me to get lost.
    One month later,she has miraculous health recovery and long time friend is now boyfriend going home with her for Thanksgiving.
    I want to puke.

    This post has been edited 2 times, most recently by San Juan Kid on 11/22/2012 at 3:02 PM

    San Juan Kid

  • This post was edited by Final Countdown on 11/22/2012 at 3:04 PM

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    Final Countdown ●

  • You sound like a total pussy. You really are angry that a girl with some other guy's kid who has frequent seizures left you?

    Consider it a blessing.

    Sparty Fan

  • lol.sorry bro!

    San Juan Kid

  • Similar thing happened to me last year. You probably wont get closure. It will fvcking suck s it always does, but better to close the chapter completely and move on. No more texts etc. Defriend her from FB if you have to. Good luck bro. youll be good to go in a year or so.

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    Hide yo quarterbackz, hide yo kidz, the MSU defense is here

    tBell Tolls

  • My (very soon to be ex) wife told me Sunday she's leaving. Could give a crap about her, but miss my babies.

    I feel you.

    All Your Base

  • john winger said...

    Bitches be crazy

    Yes, yes they be.

    All Your Base

  • I'm just trying to understand it.
    I care enough about her to let her go if she is happier with someone else.

    But why tell me all this BS 4 weeks ago and then do this?

    Things don't change that drastically in a month.

    I guess everything she told me was just bs.

    San Juan Kid

  • Unless she could suck thr chrome off of a trailer hitch through a 20 foot garden hose, why should you care?

    Sports Mechanic

  • It happens dude. My ex broke up with me a while back. I decided to freeze her out of my life and make myself better. Lost some weight, focused on work, and now I feel way better about my life.

    Improve yourself and move on.

    Harry Callahan

  • Harry Callahan said...

    It happens dude. My ex broke up with me a while back. I decided to freeze her out of my life and make myself better. Lost some weight, focused on work, and now I feel way better about my life.

    Improve yourself and move on.

    Good advice man.I know that of course.

    Just feels like shit right now,especially today.

    San Juan Kid

  • the best way to get over somebody is to get under somebody else.

    AMwood

  • A.M. wood said...

    the best way to get over somebody is to get under somebody else.

    This x1000

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    Hide yo quarterbackz, hide yo kidz, the MSU defense is here

    tBell Tolls

  • A.M. wood said...

    the best way to get over somebody is to get under somebody else.

    This helps for a day it two. Then the shitty feeling comes back.

    Make yourself better and the rest will fall into place.

    Harry Callahan

  • Harry Callahan said...

    This helps for a day it two. Then the shitty feeling comes back.

    Make yourself better and the rest will fall into place.

    you can do both.

    AMwood

  • Worst part is she made me feel like we had a chance to reconcile with what she said last month.

    It makes the pain much more raw.

    San Juan Kid

  • Sparty Fan said...

    You sound like a total pussy. You really are angry that a girl with some other guy's kid who has frequent seizures left you?

    Consider it a blessing.

    THIS

    Dude definitely consider it a blessing. I'd never date a single mom and you would have to look after her when she had her seizures too? Da fuck are you mad about?

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    Viggo_Martyr

  • Her reason for breaking up with you in the first place was a big fat lie....being sick is when you need those important to you in your life the most, especially a 3yr bf. She didn't need or want you around and was finally relieved to have a dumb excuse and you bought it.

    This post was edited by ish_man on 11/22/2012 at 3:43 PM

    ish_man ●

  • How long until the "I have seizures, why won't my ex stop stalking me?" thread?

    BoilerRoom ●

  • Agreed with Harry. Focus on the gym, or an old hobby, maybe a new hobby that you can't/wont associate with her. Keeping busy and improving yourself are the best measures. Get some new tail here and there along the way.

    Metal_Sparty

  • That's why God invented booze and hookers. Sac up. Looking for sympathy on a message board is kinda pathetic. And I'm being nice by inserting "kinda."

    Vim -- noun: robust energy and enthusiasm : VITALITY

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  • Walk away and be good about it. Your happiness is NOT dependent on her!

    Nίκη για MSU

    Bender

  • Congrats on the most depressing Thanksgiving post in message board history.

    It sounds to me that she used her health to get out of a relationship that she didn't see going anywhere. Then, with the help of your overcaring obsessiveness, she continued to keep you at arms length to fill her void of having a man in her life until she found someone that she could have a real relationship with.

    The thing about women is, based on my and my friends' experiences, if a woman is no longer interested in being you with, she'll keep you around until she has another option. I've never known of a girl to break up with a guy, just to be single. She has always wanted to remain friends, whether there is still sex involved or not, but as soon as they decide to start a relationship with another guy, sometimes with a "friend", aka a guy who's been waiting for you to fuck up or for her to get bored of you, your services are no longer needed.

    And after a break up, there's very little chance you'll get back together when the guy is needy. It's always best to pretend like you don't care, whether you do or not. If she sees that you've moved on, and there's more to your life than her, she may realize that she needs you more than you need her. But as time passes, you may realize that you put her on a pedestal, but in reality, she is just another woman. At first, you'll just think about all the good times, neglecting all the times she pissed you off. So if she does ever decide to come back, you probably won't even want her anymore.

    As previously stated, move on. The sooner you start, the sooner the pain will be over with. When you've been with as many woman as I have (2), you pick up on these kinds of things.

    Sincerely,

    HeySeuss
    Relationship Expert
    Ph.D University of Phoenix

    HeySeuss

  • If she didn't do anal, then she wasn't worth keeping

    Dallasparty: "With this attitude, the purest of crap is YOU.Dude, you need to start caring. And that goes for everyone else on here."

    TVs Frank21789

  • San Juan Kid said...

    Tough day today.Alone in Texas without family and just found out my ex girlfriend just took her supposed "new" boyfriend home to her parents for Thanksgiving.

    We went out for 3 years and I was very close to her young son,too.

    She started having seizures in January(30yrs.old) and broke up with me the morning after a night of seizures in February.

    they ran tests and couldn't figure out why the seizures occurred.

    She said it wasn't fair to have me take care of her like an invvalid.I suspected her health issues were more serious than she let on.

    I was devastated having her and her son ripped out of my life.

    She moved to a new house but we texted back and forth for a few months.I would check on her periodicaly by text to make sure she was alright.

    In the summer I texted.No answer.Called no answer.Left message,"Hey,just let me know u r ok".Nothing.

    I was worried sick that she was alone laying on the floor somewhere with a seizure and since she had moved I couldn't physically check on her.

    When I finally reached her by phone the following Monday she said she had gone to South Padre for the weekend and left her phone.She was ok.

    I was so pissed that she didnt let me know she was ok.I didn't contact her at all for 3 months.

    last month,broke down and sent her a "how r u" text.We started talking.

    She said she had a void in her life and still missed me but hadn't contacted me because she didnt want to hurt me and hoped I had moved on.Still had health issues but was taking medication for the seizures.

    Said she saw a car with a Spartans sticker and had to pull over she was crying so bad.(This is in San Antonio).

    Texted me pics of her son when I asked about him.

    Said she hated her life with the stress from her health and it wasn't fair to drop that in someone she loves lap.

    Anyway we text for a few days and one night out of the blue she calls me and I miss the call.

    Text her the next day and she says she is ok but wee shouldnt contact each other anymore.

    I'm like WTF??She says it reminded her of why we weren't together. she used to get pissed if I missed a call.

    Says she needs someone there all the time,not some of the time and will be patient waiting to find that person.

    I get pissed because I don't think its fair to pull back because of one missed call when I couldnt reach her for days earlier in the summer and was worried to death.

    She tells me to let her go.

    I wait about a week and send texts periodically over the next couple of weeks with no answer.

    Then I see the other day that she goes out with this guy that is supposed to just be a "friend".

    Next day she is at Starbucks with "her love".I text .No response.

    How do you go from being single and having a void in her life,missing me to having Starbucks with "her love" a month later???

    I text her asking if she lied to me about everything and congrats for the miraculous health recovery.
    I ask for some kind of response so I can get closure.No answer.

    Yesterday,send her a glad your happy goodbye text.no answer.

    Today see she is on her way to Laredo with her "new" boyfriend.

    sorry for the long rant but I have no ffamily here and you guys are it.i feel sick to my stomach and totally used.

    i am much more upset that she didnt care enough about me to just tell me she was seeing someone else.prolly been seeing this guy the whole time.

    She should have at least given me some kind of response so I could have closure.

    Who takes a guy home for Thanksgiving you have been going out with for a month?Even though I am hurt I know the answer.

    You don't.

    Did this chick ever give a shit about me??I know I am not perfect but damn.

    Probably the longest post I have ever made but man it hurts.

    CLIFF NOTES:

    GF of 3 years breaks up because of health.
    Months later we talk again,she is single,misses me and has a void in her life without me.
    she gets pissed because I miss a phone call and tells me to get lost.
    One month later,she has miraculous health recovery and long time friend is now boyfriend going home with her for Thanksgiving.
    I want to puke.

    Hey, I can tell that you are a good guy with a warm heart. These situations are very tough to get through and only after time has passed is someone able to look at without the heart being tugged on.

    Take inventory of all the good things you have in life and all the ways you add value to the lives of others. You will get through this...embrace the pain of heart break, but don't dwell on it and don't let it define who you are.

    tVargMan Prime

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