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Well, it could actually be both.

This.

ADDING children to the mix muddles things further. Suddenly, you are surrounded by a new circle of parent friends — but the emotional ties can be tenuous at best, as the comedian Louis C. K. related in one stand-up routine: “I spend whole days with people, I’m like, I never would have hung out with you, I didn’t choose you. Our children chose each other. Based on no criteria, by the way. They’re the same size.”

1 word: Weed - it brings people together (puff, puff, give)

I don't see how that's possible.

Well this article sums up my current life perfectly.

Just turned 30: check
Recently moved away from Chicago to small town Michigan with local friend pool very limited: check
Wife pregnant: check (viatnamese)

At least Ill have friends soon enough when my kids find them for me, per Louis CK

I do. The women around here have become rather full of themselves, and really think they are hot shit. The best, is the extremely obese lady who got her stomach stapled and lost a ton of weight. I told her husband I think the doctor screwed up and left a stick up her ass because she was much nicer when she was fat. The funny thing is no matter how much weight she's lost, she still has her old face so I don't know why she thinks she is all the sudden good looking.

We have consciously made the decision to pull back from these people. It really is worse than junior high school.

I recently watched a really interesting show that basically explained that time travel is possible, but only forward in time, as we know physics today. At that, you are just stuck in the future and can't come back.

Interesting article and pretty spot on. I certainly have situational friends with whom I'll share a beer on occasion: parents of my kids' friends, other parents at soccer tournaments, neighbors, etc. Even the husbands of my wife's friends, whom I've known for 15 + yrs and are all pretty cool, would probably fall out of my life if it weren't for the wives. Or my law partners, whom I spend most of my waking days with maintaining my livelihood, aren't as close as my high school and college friends. Although I've never thought about it, the article was correct in saying that it was proximity and unplanned, spontaneous meetings that form lasting friendships. You just don't have that anymore once a job, mortgage, wife and kids are all added.

However, if you make it to 30 and above with a small core of good friends, I think you'll be in good shape. It's quality, not quantity, when your "friend-time" becomes limited, even if they're spread across the country.

All I need are drinking partners and those are easy to find.

"I don't know what you guys are talking about, I make friends everywhere I go. They don't seem to mind that I'm an asswipe."

-Drugs Delaney

At the age of 44 I moved from Detroit area to a small town in SE Indiana (Batesville) and knew no one when I moved here. Still here 2 years later and while I have made some friends, can't say that I've made any close friends that I would stay in contact with if/when I move from here. I am single with no kids.