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A green and white one like that would be MINE.

No kidding. That's shirtsleeve weather.

Maybe it was not meant to be... at least they left the door open for another possibility. You will know if this was a company worth working for if they don't contact you again. I could be wrong but they probably thought the distance being a factor might have affected your performance? Who knows... Good luck to you as I'm in the construction field myself and know how hard it is out there.

I'm guessing that they recognize the hardship this job can cause on some people and have experienced employees leaving the job leaving because it required time away from family.

FUCK ME.

Sorry, GB.

Very sorry to hear. Next round heed your own words...

Decide what's right between yourself and your wife. That makes the decision.

Telling all the children is very important- but not the decision-maker. You'll always decide in their favor. The rest is just breaking the news to them.

Maybe the employer didn't get that since you didn't formally accept without having broken the news.

Thoughts and well wishes...this too shall Pass

Can you design fake legs?

Thanks. *and thanks to everyone else also. Hard to keep faking the multiquote function here.

The feeling of despair has not left yet. Not sure how long that will take. Probably until the next job offer. I needed this friggen job. My family needed this job. Shit. I wont put yall through all of this.

Thanks for all of the advice in this thread, and always. You folks have been great to me and my family and it means so much to me. I know it sounds corny, and I will probably look like a bit of a turd for saying it, but when life really sucks and nothing else is working, you folks have a way of getting me through. Nothing replaces my family, but sometimes there is just a need for an extra boost, and I appreciate it.

I had a chance to set up a meeting with a contractor in Knoxville after I got the phone call. So I sat with them for an hour this afternoon. It was a good conversation. They dont have anything right now, but I spoke with the Owner who is the president of the company, the Vice president of the Company (has been there 44 years, and with the owners kid who is actually the most intune and knowlegable owners kid that I have ever met.

It was a very productive conversation, so I expect that something could come my way out of that eventually.

It will be an absolutely shitty weekend. But thanks to all of you. I cant answer everyone, but please know that I appreciate each of you and your support.

Too bad, but I needed this friggen job. My family needed this job. and I asked if they could wait til Friday so I could talk to my daughter in person about it. don't go well together. Next time just take the damn job.

Gotta agree plus if you can't make a decision like this without personally talking to every member of your family how comfortable do you think your employer feels that you'll make sound decisions as a PM.

Ive already got the opinion of everyone in my family. If "the next time" ever happens again, then a sound decision can be made.

Its a pretty life altering job decision. It is not like I was looking at a job that required a bunch of overtime, or required me to travel occasionally, or even a job that I would be away during the week and only home on the weekends.

This one was quite a bit different, and the time frame didnt allow me to get the answers in the time they were comfortable, I guess.

Sucks to be me. Moving onward.

I didnt disclose anything. They know that I have kids, they know that one is in college and the younengest is 4. They asked questions I answered them honestly. They mentioned something about being a close family and I told them that we ARE a close family, but the closeness has built strength, and we have went through much more than this together.

I told them that if they wanted to talk to my wife I would bring her in. She is a strong individual, the family will be fine. I will be fine.

If they dont want to send me because I am a family man, then I guess that is find.

Ive got my oars back in the water, not going to let this keep me down. I was pretty down last night. Right now Im just pissed. Monday I have a phone interview with another company. Moving on.

GB...

Sorry to hear that these guys missed out on the opportunity to have you on their team. Their loss.
But whats done is done. Time to sack up and move on. Im a bit younger than you - but sometimes we all need reminding that life deals us strikes and gutters. This is a gutter moment for you for sure. But think about the positives that you have going for. Focus on that, and focus on what you can do to improve your situation from here on out.

I cant remember this exact quote verbatim

But I remember once reading something along the lines of

even the most beautiful music of the flute had to first endure the gnashing of the wood and the most violent of cutting and scraping for it to take its final shape.