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LOL.

Future son in law has a 3.9 GPA in engineering and a good job lined up. Your daughter, assuming she is a functional sentient human with the smarts and abilities to make her own decisions (it would reflect badly on you as a parent if she wasn't) has picked him and wants to marry him (and has dated him for a fairly healthy 3 years before making her decision). And you're bagging on him for being involved in the wedding planning.

The best part was you bitching about him having speadsheets for expenses, which I'm assuming are to help YOU save money. With a future father in law like you, I would have said "eh, fuck it honey, let's drop that extra $4k on specialty flowers from Nowheresistan. Langoustines and foie gras for cocktail hour? Why not!"

Today I learned that OP is a whiny bitch.

Traditional weddings sound like a major pain in the ass. No thanks.

I actually met with the chef and created recipes for what I wanted served. Same with cocktails.

Helped design and create flavors for our cake.

I designed the lighting layout since we were big on light and minimal on decor.

Arranged the playlist. Went to the band's practice session.

Hired the photographer.

Picked out the suits (not tuxes).

Planned the honeymoon.

I even helped pick out the floral arrangements.

Women. Can't live with em, can't shoot em

Which is why homosexuals should be allowed to marry each other.

BOOM WELLS!!

Didn't see that coming did you?

Is that a 69 or 70 Cutlass in your avatar? If it's yours, you've got my dream car.

I got married in Hawaii. The wife ran a travel agency at the time, so I basically stayed out of the way. The bonus was it also kept my MiL at bay, as she had no clue what to do either. Worked out great.

No way this marriage lasts. The engineering nerd needs to be bitch slapped. Frank you and I smoke cigars together and drink liquor. We are men. The thought of this guy marrying your daughter has got to be killing you. I told my daughter the other day to be very careful who she decided to marry. I said you can't change a man so don't think that will ever happen. Find a man who will treat you as an equal and believed in the same values and you should be ok.

And a good representation of that would be to stay uninvolved in their wedding?

Is she losing 30 pounds just for the wedding, only to gain it all back; like every other girl does?

You have a good eye for cars. Yes it is.... 1970 Cutlass that I acquired on my 16th BDay, long ago and far away in Michigan....It accompanied me on a long journey including my time at MSU, many a ski trip, and countless trips to and around the Lake Michigan shoreline. It also facilitated the loss of my virginity sometime in 1975 while I was in high school. Loved those bench seats....

When I moved to California in 1983 I gave it back to my parents who used it as their summer car for many years, and stored it during the winters. In 2001, a couple of months before he passed away my dad told me if I wanted my car back, he'd ship it out to me. He passed on 9/11/01, one month after shipping the car to me in CA. Second greatest gift he ever gave me (the first being simply being my father). It's now my summer ride around Northern Ca....

Sorry to highjack the topic, but I could go on and on (just did) about how much I've loved this car. Two car shows a year and lots of summer pleasure in this vehicle now...

But see, I think that's part of the problem. Everyone wants the day to be "perfect." It won't be. It might rain. The cake might collapse. A bridesmaid might take a header down the stairs. Shoot - a thousand things can go wrong. People need to have realistic expectations, and learn to laugh at life's little surprises. I compare my wedding where we had a blast and laughed throughout the day despite any number of small mishaps, to a co-worker who spent untold hours planning every little detail and crafting one of the most elaborate and beautiful weddings possible, only to complain that the day was "ruined" because the caterer ran out of cream colored napkins and some people had to make do with white napkins. No kidding.

First thing we did was count ahead 9 mo. Then we back up 4 mo, and picked a date.
Then, we tried to find a wedding dress that could be altered to fit a body that would not look exactly like it did when we got engaged.
Found a church. A hall. A caterer.

THEN, and this is the important part: We told my inlaws "Here are the plans, here are the number of people we plan on inviting, this is the hall, the church, etc. Our budget covers this, and only this. If you make any changes to this plan, it comes out of your pocket.

1000 changes to the plan later, and I saved a ton of money by letting the inlaws pay for their version of what our wedding should be.

WAIT: The first thing we did after getting engaged was.....get pregnant. And then went with this plan.