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chris14 said...
Eye roll.
Zillions of plausible and reasonable explanations. Maybe this guy feels like he needs to deliver the wedding of her dreams to her on a silver platter while she stands there looking regal. Maybe he's an engineer that loves problem solving and project management and wedding planning is one big awesome puzzle to him. Maybe he's got a touch of OCD and this is a reflection of that (jeez Frank, way to be a raging asshole about someone with mental health needs). Maybe he just feels tons of pressure on the wedding needing to be perfect in every way or the guests will look down on him.
Fuck, maybe he just likes planning shit and CAD/CAM programs. If his daughter actually hates all that's happening, maybe he's a shitty parent for not raising a daughter that's more confident/assertive or better at communicating with her husband-to-be. He for sure is a stereotypical old man for not being able to adapt to this unexpected challenge that goes against his hilariously outdated sense of gender roles.
Hell, maybe a lot of the behavior about the son-in-law fits nicely in the description of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator of a person who wants to have all the data in front of them (see the part about the guy slowing down the process to look at options) before they make a decision, and someone who's a thinking introvert that likes detached decisionmaking and depth of knowledge.
The real man in this situation should be the older alpha male (frank) adapting to the change (headstrong young pup) and finding a way to bring all the parties together to collaborate harmoniously and in good spirits (a few beers and a constructive discussion and sharing of perspectives). An excellent demonstration of the strength and wisdom that comes with age.
Or he can cry into his beer to his internet friends like a grumpy old fossil. Have a cigar (CAO) on me, you decrepit old dinosaurs.
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chris14 said...
There's a certain irony in you thinking I'm a pussy for mocking a curmudgeonly old guy (insert picture of Abe Simpson screaming at clouds) for coming to an internet message board to whine about his future son in law getting all up in the WEDDING PLANNING. This almost reaches new heights of #FirstWorldProblems.
A real man sits down with the guy and has a constructive conversation about collaboration and roles and hammers everything out over a beer to help everyone work together smoothly without problems.
This post was edited by Frank Ricard on 3/7/2013 at 10:52 PM
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chris14 said...
Eye roll.
Zillions of plausible and reasonable explanations. Maybe this guy feels like he needs to deliver the wedding of her dreams to her on a silver platter while she stands there looking regal. Maybe he's an engineer that loves problem solving and project management and wedding planning is one big awesome puzzle to him. Maybe he's got a touch of OCD and this is a reflection of that (jeez Frank, way to be a raging asshole about someone with mental health needs). Maybe he just feels tons of pressure on the wedding needing to be perfect in every way or the guests will look down on him.
Fuck, maybe he just likes planning shit and CAD/CAM programs. If his daughter actually hates all that's happening, maybe he's a shitty parent for not raising a daughter that's more confident/assertive or better at communicating with her husband-to-be. He for sure is a stereotypical old man for not being able to adapt to this unexpected challenge that goes against his hilariously outdated sense of gender roles.
Hell, maybe a lot of the behavior about the son-in-law fits nicely in the description of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator of a person who wants to have all the data in front of them (see the part about the guy slowing down the process to look at options) before they make a decision, and someone who's a thinking introvert that likes detached decisionmaking and depth of knowledge.
The real man in this situation should be the older alpha male (frank) adapting to the change (headstrong young pup) and finding a way to bring all the parties together to collaborate harmoniously and in good spirits (a few beers and a constructive discussion and sharing of perspectives). An excellent demonstration of the strength and wisdom that comes with age.
Or he can cry into his beer to his internet friends like a grumpy old fossil. Have a cigar (CAO) on me, you decrepit old dinosaurs.
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Has No Left said...
My responsibilities were:
1) Ensure that the only possible dates were between May 1 and late August as to not interfere with sporting events (Memorial Day and July 4th excluded).
2) Alcohol planning.
3) Ensure that the only possible dates were between May 1 and late August as to not interfere with sporting events (Memorial Day and July 4th excluded).
4) Ensure that the only possible dates were between May 1 and late August as to not interfere with sporting events (Memorial Day and July 4th excluded).
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Haha. Don't ever change, old man. I've seen enough of your Wells posts to know that your non-political stuff is pure (entertaining) trolling. I'm still somewhat confident that a guy as liberal as you is only an asshole for your own entertainment.
There's an interesting dynamic where Frank sees the fact that he's paying for the wedding means "I'M THE PATRIARCH AND I GET VETO POWER AND FINAL SAY OVER STUFF LOOK AT MY ENORMOUS PENIS" instead of maybe treating the money as a gift to his beloved (supposedly) daughter and his future son in law for them to start their lives together. Let's not forget that if the wedding goes totally effin sideways, that shit reflects (fairly or not) on the bride and groom, not the parents. Nobody ever says "Man...the bride's dad really screwed up that wedding!" What if the son-in-law feels pressured to throw a really good shindig?
There's a certain irony in you thinking I'm a pussy for mocking a curmudgeonly old guy (insert picture of Abe Simpson screaming at clouds) for coming to an internet message board to whine about his future son in law getting all up in the WEDDING PLANNING. This almost reaches new heights of #FirstWorldProblems.
A real man sits down with the guy and has a constructive conversation about collaboration and roles and hammers everything out over a beer to help everyone work together smoothly without problems.
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Jon Wigsplit said...
The mans job is to make sure the bar is stocked with the correct booze and book the honeymoon. If hes doing more than that, hes acting like a female.
Tell your daughter to get rid of him stat!!
I've never told any of my kids who to date or marry. This has worked for the first 3 kids, so I would never tell her to dump him. However my wife is another story
- she was ready to throw him out of the house. And my wife isn't some drama queen - in fact, she's the opposite. You really have to f up for her to get upset with you. She's been married to me damn near 30 years, so that says everything about her patience and staying level headed.
We've had some friends that have told us that they don't see those 2 together. The wyfe and I have always said they're polar opposites - she's very pretty, gregarious, and has so many friends you can't visit her at her college because she's CONSTANTLY running in friends that all act like they haven't seen each other in years. It's comical. He's the exact opposite. But even in high school the daughter liked the nerd types, so I wasn't shocked by her choosing the way she did.
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OT: what did you guys do to plan your wedding?