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My dad usually does his own clothes, unless my mom is washing hers and needs to top off a wash load. They alternate on towels since they share the same set.

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When the laundry needs to be done, I throw them in the wash. I would expect my girlfriend to do the same.

Same goes for dishes, vacuuming, cat box, etc.

No. We split the chores and that is one of hers.

If I didn't do mine, it wouldn't get done.

But I guess I don't mind anymore, since she takes care of the kids' laundry, leaving me off the hook for that.

This.

The wife and I have separate dirty clothes baskets in each of our closets (his and her closets in the master bedroom). If I'm doing laundry, I'll grab her stuff too and vice versa. It's different if I'm just doing one load because I need something to wear the next day, but on the weekend, it all gets done. Whoever gets home from work first tends to cook dinner unless we made plans for one of us to cook something specific that night.

I tend to be more of a neat freak, so I tend to clean more than my wife. Realistically, it's mostly picking up stuff at the end of the day than true cleaning (wife doesn't understand the concept of putting dishes in the dishwasher before bed so the kitchen is clean to start the next day). If we're truly "cleaning" that house, it's usually a group effort, though we've kind of fallen into a routine as to what task we're responsible for (I vacuum, she dusts, etc, etc)

If/When we have kids, there's a good chance the wife will stay home when there's more than 1 and then yes, I'll expect her to do a bit more than I do (and yes, I realize raising kids is a full time job). That being said, I still think I'll still do some laundry, some cleaning, some cooking, etc

Mexicans

From a personal standpoint, my wife actually shovels as much or more than I do. I mow the lawn, but that's mostly because I'm picky about how it looks. My wife offers to mow the lawn, but I don't trust her to do a good job with it and I kind of like getting outside for 90 minutes on the weekend in the summer.

You need to stop this right now. You are creating expectations that eventually will lead to ruin.

You should buy my book.

I do 5% of the laundry.

I've offered many times to help, but my wife is OCD about the laundry. I've never ruined any of her cloths when I've done the laundry but she finally decided she felt better just doing it all. I said as long as I never hear you complain about having to do it all, fine. She agreed. Problem solved...........mostly.

We had the same issue with house cleaning. I'd clean and she'd come back through and feel the need to touch up. I told her if she didn't trust me to clean it adequately than their was no point in me doing it. Again, she said she'd start doing it all. I said as long as you don't complain that's fine. She agreed. She does "let" me vacuum occasionally though.

I also do ALL outside work though so I guess it balances itself. I also do most of the cooking (mostly because she SUCKS). Works for us but who knows in another 10 years

Yes.