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I don't really see an issue with it. I know i'm OCD about some things. I know I care more about some things than she does. IT was that way when we were dating and that way now. The mowing thing is just the way I am and I actually take pride in taking care of my lawn and landscaping.

As for picking up stuff around the house, it's really just a difference in personal taste. I like to pick-up and have it clean before going to bed at night (I'm thinking the glass I was drinking out of after dinner, etc) and my wife would rather clean up in the morning. I like to start the day with the house clean. She'd rather just go to bed and clean it up in the morning as part of her morning routine. If she woke up before me, that would be fine, but most mornings I'm awake first (I'm thinking weekends when we're up and hanging out around the house, not weekday work days).

And really, what it boils down to is I don't think carrying one glass to the kitchen and putting it in the dishwasher is that big a deal. I'm walking that way anyways with my glass, I can carry both of them with me. When I got married, I never expected to change my wife's ways. Life is too short to worry about little stuff like this in my opinion and if it really bothered me, I'd make her take care of her own stuff at night, but it seems like such a little thing, why turn it into a big argument??

Maybe if you did more laundry you'd still be married.

Little word of advice to all of the men here that are either married or will be someday...

My butler Jeeves does my laundry.

I do about 90% of the laundry and dishes in the house. My wife works part time and does about 70% of the child care. I work about 70 hours per week, mostly from home (high tech). She still manages to complain that she 'never gets a break' - ugh - chalk it up to modern female entitlement. Actually, I don't mind that much. I actually enjoy that sort of brain dead work sometimes. I learned from my dad - he did a shit ton of house work and never complained. good thread

I probably do less than half of the laundry and way less cleaning other than dishes. I handle the majority of outdoor stuff - lawn, snow, pool. We probably split cooking. The wife is a hell of a house painter though. Way more patient than me.

She did all the laundry when we first got married. However, it got uncomfortable when I needed something or was low on underwear or something..felt like I was asking the maid to do laundry.

Now, I do my own when I need it and she does the remainder of the family. Just works best.

I'm not reading through the whole thread, but son, there's one sure fire way to fix this. I'm an old married cat, and I am never asked to do the laundry.

Shrink up her favorite sweater, or mix colors with whites on HOT--fuck up something. She'll leave you alone. She may get pissed, complain to her friends her husband can't do laundry, but every chick knows men CAN'T do laundry. If you cave in on this, leave your nuts at the door and never admit it. None of my friends do laundry.

This. I fancy myself a pretty decent cook and my wife thinks so as well. I enjoy making more elaborate meals and cooking so I don't have a problem doing it as long as I'm not pressed for time or feeling especially lazy. Made seared scallops the other night and for Valentine's day I prepared a sirloin steak with butterflied lobster tail.

Back to laundry though: I do my own and always have since high school. I found that when others do it, they either do it wrong (wrong temperature settings or dry something that isn't supposed to be put in dryer) and my clothes get shrunk or completely ruined or they get lost because they're mixed in with everyone else's clothes. To simply things, I just do it myself. Two loads and I'm done and I can put a delay wash or delay dry with my washer and dryer so it starts washing while I'm at work and by the time I get home, I just throw it in the dryer for 30-40 minutes. Done.

One pet peeve I have for my wife as far as laundry though is that she doesn't ever really "finish" laundry. There's always something of hers that's in the dryer or washer when I want to do my laundry either because she's forgot about it or just plain lazy and figures she'll just hit "touch up" on the dryer and get dressed out of there. Or she fails to put her clothes away after she's done so she's essentially using the laundry basket as her dresser/closet. Thinking I should just take over the entire closet and sell the dresser to make a point of saying that if she's not going to use it, then why even have one to begin with?

I think I've mastered this when it comes to cooking. I didn't do it on purpose but I'm a horrible cook.

Yes, we share all chores. With a 6 month old and a 4 year old there are a lot of duties that we share.

I assumed that's what the maid was for.