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Marriage is also a state institution that provides some legal benefits.

until she thinks about leaving you because you wont commit.

stupid beyonce ruining it for us

you are so shockingly ignorant of Christianity and religion in general I'm tempted to simply gloss over this--but...
marriage as a social and economic relationship existed long before monotheism.
the first Christians were very divided about marriage. Some thought that they should follow Jesus' example and focus on leading lives of poverty and chastity. Others determined marriage to other Christians within the Jewish community was permissible.
Followers of Paul in Greece and what is now Turkey were people with a cultural background very different from the mostly Jewish converts in Palestine and Rome. These people struggled greatly to reconcile with pagan societies. There were different dietary expectations, legal, and social arrangements which other Christians found abhorrent as former Jews. There were fights over whether Christians had to be circumcised, whether they could eat meat at pagan festivals, associate with non-Christians, fasting, etc.
In the Roman world monogamous marriage from puberty on was the norm. Many married men and women loved each other, but rich men who could afford consorts often felt no moral need to remain sexually loyal to their spouses. Christian converts came from all social backgrounds and classes. They sometimes felt the need to leave their spouses. Some might have had Christian marriages and pagan marriages becoming effectively polygamous and abhorrent to Christians, Jews, and Roman law.
Paul advised some that remaining virgins was good and the most sure path to God. For others gave the advice we usually see from Christians today on marriage. But most of all he told his followers to keep their eye on the bigger picture of faith in Jesus.

Long before their was a Christian explanation of marriage there was the human desire to marry. If people lose their faith the desire the marry will still persist.

What's the perfect girl if it's not the perfect time?

That's been my dilemma for many years.

I still have youth I want to use to bed different females.

I am so afraid of marriage

I can't find anyone willing to date me, let alone marry me. Maybe I'm the lucky one after all.

I didn't once make this about Xtianity. I made this about religion in general. I do have a degree in religious studies and undertstand numerous religions. I wasn't talking about Xtianity, western, or eastern religions. It was about religion as a whole. Your argument simply supplements mine. That religion as a whole, no matter the belief, is nothing but a self made opiate to understand a pointless life. Marriage does nothing but make a point to a lawless god. It doesn't matter the history, but the ritual of standing up and becoming one in front of a religious hierarchic is nothing but a religious symbol. You can have the benefits of marriage by removing the religion, but you lose the symbolism.

I'm sick and tired of being treated like a piece of meat. I am a person with feelings and I deserve to be treated as such.

If every marriage had a pre-nup....

As a guy you are screwed if you get divorced, especially if you have kids.

I told my gf that I will get a prenup. did not go so well.

Any woman that bitched against a pre-nup doesn't have your best interests at heart.

If she was in the mindset she loved you and wanted to spend the rest of her life with you, the pre-nup wouldn't matter. Why would it, all you are protecting is what is yours.

I wouldn't marry her.

My girlfriends younger cousin just got married to someone she's known for less than a year, they haven't even lived together yet. I'm fucked.

I was 40+ when I got married (first and only). If you make it that long without getting married, suffice it to say the societal pressure pretty much goes away. Friends and family pretty much give up and just asssume that you are a closet homosexual, weird or something else that makes them feel OK with the idea.

I have now been married eight years. Strangely, I found that I really like being married. If you get married for the right reasons It really is a great thing.